How to End the “Blame Game”
At a certain point, it doesn’t really matter so much how we got to be a certain way. Until we admit our character defects—and take responsibility for the fact that regardless of where we got them, they are ours now—they will not go away.
“If my mother had only….”, “If my dad hadn’t….” “If my boss would just…” If this sounds familiar it’s because playing the “blame game” has become something of a national epidemic. Let’s admit it—it’s because it’s the easy way out. It allows us to avoid taking a good look in the mirror to recognize what we are doing that keeps us trapped in misery.
Mindfulness offers an escape hatch. It empowers us to assess ourselves clearly and comprehensively yet compassionately as well. It reveals what we need to change about ourselves to live the kind of life we want.